The real meaning of perfect
Today I learned that the word "perfect" originally did not mean without flaws or mistakes. The word perfect originally meant thorough. Perfect used to be a world where our mind, body and heart moved in unison. Perfect was showing up without apologizing for the truth of our experiences. But "we" (and I mean as a society) have come so far from this meaning.
Mark Nepo says "One of the menacing assumptions that always keeps us from living our life, is the assumption that life is happening other than where we are."
There is so much JOY in our lives that is simply clouded by noise that consumes so much of our energy. If we can clear the stuff (the people who drain us, the job that doesn't bring us joy, the things we don't need), we can be free to live thoroughly, whole-heartedly. And when we show up whole-heartedly, we create space to go after what we WANT in life.
I think this is why Marie Kondo's recent Netflix series has been such a big hit with people. Removing and releasing the things that no longer bring you joy is powerful.
Taking a page out of one of my new favorite books: Disrupt-Her by Miki Agrawal, she suggests these three exercises to declutter your life and show up full of JOY:
1. go through each room and declutter and organize carefully, keeping only the things that bring you joy.
2. do this same thing for your friendships. Write down reasons that each close person in your life brings you joy and adds positive value to your life. Once you start to notice how certain friendships make you feel, you can naturally let them drop away.
3. write down three physical things or values that are most important to you and why. Put this list in a place where you can see it daily.
Try them out this week and take note on how it improves how you show up every day.